Sex and the Sun: Fake orgasms can leave the wrong impression

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Fake it until you make it, right? Wrong. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 85 percent of men said that their partner had an orgasm during the last time they had sex. Only 64 percent of the women reported actually having one. That is more than a few orgasms that are not being accounted for. These men think that women are having orgasms because that is what they are led to believe. Lying about having an orgasm is not doing either party any favors. When a man believes that what he is doing is working, he will continue to do it. If he is told what is not working, improvement can be made. Most men appreciate…

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From Pluto to Plato: Why is love so powerful?

Why is love so powerful? It is in our DNA. Over the summer, I tried to recuperate from the throes of losing the woman I loved for 3 1/2 years. I rummaged through my thoughts and kept my winds about earth and I thought about love. Even in separation, my ex-partner’s presence inhabited my mind. That is the power of love. Explaining love is best left to poets, but scientists have also been hard at work contemplating the realm of …

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Sex and the Sun: There is no justification for rape

There is no grey area or moral loopholes. No hidden clause in a jumble of legality stating the opposite. Rape Is rape. Women between the ages of 16-24 have a four times higher risk of being raped than any other group. College freshmen are the most raped women of all. Rape of young women are too easily blamed on provocative dressing and alcohol consumption. Excuses, excuses. Both unacceptable. Rape is caused by rapists. Women should never be blamed for being …

The Give and Go: Cerebral Palsy cannot diminish love for sports

The Give and Go: Time to end hazing in all pro sports

Hazing has a long tradition in the military, fraternities and locker rooms. That does not make it right. Slavery was once an American tradition and so was child labor, racism, homophobia, sexism, child marriage, indentured servitude and share cropping. That does not make them right. The case of Miami Dolphins teammates Jonathan Martin and Richie Incognito is a blessing in disguise because it has surfaced an ugly cancer in the NFL. Incognito’s flurry of racial slurs and threats against Martin …

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Sex and the Sun: Ubiquitous porn can be destructive

In 2012 the pornography industry brought in more than $100 billion worldwide and had an enormous profit margin. Sex really does sell. Porn was in the $100 billion club with the Fortune 500 behemoths like Exxon-Mobile, Chevron, Volkswagen and Apple. Some porn traders are richer than drug lords, robber barons and corporate raiders. Some do almost as much damage. Like heroin, pornography is addictive. Americans, on average, are exposed to porn by age 11. Many teenagers are addicts. Constant voyeurism …

The Give and Go: Cerebral Palsy cannot diminish love for sports

The Give and Go: Cerebral Palsy cannot diminish love for sports

Growing up with Cerebral Palsy was difficult, especially for a kid who really wanted to be an athlete. Sitting in my wheelchair under Friday night lights while my friends played out our childhood dreams was four quarters of torture. Smelling the fragrant emerald grass of the spring diamond without throwing some inside heat was a cruel tease. I was hard to sit and watch. If absence makes the heart grew fonder, my heart swelled with passion for sports.  I fell …

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Sex and the Sun: Technology can be detrimental to relationships

Facebook is one of the biggest detriments to modern relationships. Millions of people use this social media site daily. It has changed the way many people think, communicate and feel, often for the worse. Facebook fuels a new level of stalking. In less than 30 minutes on someone’s profile, a person can learn their likes, dislikes and everything in-between. Sadly, this eliminates mutual exchanges relevant to relationship growth. Learning new things about one another is enjoyable, but the process is …

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The Give and Go: Time to pay star college athletes

An $871.6 million pie sits on the windowsill of the National Collegiate Athletic Association and athletes from all over the country can only get a whiff. When they try to take a bite there is a penalty. Athletic programs across the country have been severely punished for violating the amateur clause, which prohibits players from gaining benefits from an agent, their likeness or licensed products like jersey sales. This has created a system of dirty money and corruption that is …

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Sex and the Sun: Casual sex invites many serious dangers

Too many men and women in their late teens and early twenties do not consider the implications of their one-night stands and first-date hookups. Casual sex is not a problem of promiscuity as much as Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). Past history is a fair topic. As embarrassing as it may be to have that talk with a partner, it is worse to end up having that talk with a doctor. Having sex with someone is comparable to having sex with …

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The Give and Go: Football is headed for extinction

  For some, it is a way of life—a religion. Teeter tottering between sobriety and indigestion, football Sunday–or simply referred to as Game Day–is church for the diehard, where homes become cathedrals and big-screen TVs are shrines of prayer. When Joe Namath signed the first million-dollar contract the fuse was lit and professional football would explode and crumble baseball’s pedestal as America’s favorite pastime. But beyond the glory days of the National Football League are darker, more ominous times. A …

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Sex and the Sun: Eating disorders affect men as well as women

Here’s the skinny—Anorexia is the third most common chronic illness among adolescents. No longer just the scourge of women, eating disorders like anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and binge eating are on the rise in the male community. “One-third of teenage boys use unhealthy weight control behaviors such as skipping meals, fasting, smoking cigarettes, vomiting and taking laxatives,” according to a study by the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD). Boys as young as 10 years old are …